The cancer diagnosis affects every area of our lives: our minds; our bodies; our relationships with partners, children, and friends; our sense of identity; and our thoughts about the future and what is possible.
Just when you think it’s over and you are getting your life back, there’s more to adjust to. It’s hard to slip back into “normal,” even if everyone around you is ready for you to resume as though nothing ever happened.
I call what you’ve been through shape shifting. Some parts of you grow and others disappear, both spiritually and physically!
You grow and experience life in deeper and more vivid ways on the one hand, and grapple with deep suffering and fear on the other. You are changed by the cancer experience, both inside and out.
Where will you fit in now, with your new shape and sense of self that is still integrating? How can you get the support you need to speak of the pain and loneliness? What will you need to be able to grieve what you have lost?
Is there a space that can help mirror back to you your courage in continuing to connect with life, even when sometimes you feel overwhelmed and like giving up?
Kelly Inselmann has integrated the practices of psychotherapy and kundalini yoga through her clinical social work for over 20 years. She is a Certified Group Psychotherapist and has extensive training in addressing trauma, depression, and anxiety. She is certified at the highest level as a kundalini yoga teacher (500 hours) and is a Certified Yoga Therapist (C-IAYT). She is the co-founder of the Yoga and Talk® Therapy model and has offered groups and workshops since 2002. She created the innovative JoyBoots Sanctuary: An Online Weekly LIVE Connection for Cancer Survivors. She co-authored a research study https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1744388120311038 with the University of Texas School of Nursing to measure the impact of meditation on cognitive function in breast cancer survivors. Kelly is a 15-year cancer survivor (and cancer caregiver) who lives in Austin, Texas with her husband and daughter.
I don’t believe in giving up, but I do believe in surrendering. What’s the difference? To surrender is to let go of trying to control all the details, taking responsibility for the feelings of others, or engaging in self-blame or perfectionism.
For me, surrendering also includes putting myself in the hands of the unknown and the Infinite, trusting in the power of regeneration, hope and healing. How can we choose life and love up until our very last breath?
When I really surrender the idea that my finite self is in control, there’s a huge weight lifted. I can look around and enjoy the blessings that surround me.
Surrender takes practice and reminders. It takes community.
What do you need to surrender in order to lighten your load and, as they say in the movie, The Wiz: “Ease on down the road?”
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Joy Boots isn’t a name I invented to make you believe you’ve entered a world of sugar and honey. It’s a term describing a deeply felt experience I had during a movement group at the time of my own cancer recovery.
As a therapist, yoga teacher, and survivor, I’ve come to believe that this experience is available to all of us, wherever we are in our journey. It’s not something you can go and buy and it isn’t something you “do.” It’s something you carry in your body and heart, something no one can ever take away from you.
Your precious body holds memories of health and spontaneous energy and joy, just as it holds the experience of suffering. I’m devoted to helping you reconnect with these memories because they can be your most powerful ally and guide.
Here’s what I know: Joy Boots will help orient you on a daily basis on what to invite into your life. I believe cancer has taught all of us that we can only benefit from being more selective about our invitations.
My Joy Boots program, a blend of yoga, group talk therapy, and mentorship, invites you into a liberating experience that will encourage you to prioritize your well-being, engage with a beautiful community, and connect with the pulse of your life.
What if you could change from fatigued and fearful to centered and open to possibility?
What if you could feel welcomed into a practice (no prior experience necessary) that you can learn to do on your own that will offer relief and deep moments of feeling joyful?
What if you could join with a safe group of women who deeply understand the journey you are on and who also want to focus on possibilities of transformation and aliveness ?