Unafraid. It’s what cancer survivors long to feel.
What would your days and nights be like if you felt unafraid?
Unfortunately, fear of recurrence is one of the most common, distressing and least addressed side effects of having cancer.
This was the result of a recent survey I conducted of the cancer survivors in my JoyBoots community.
Think of it. For all the grueling treatments, invasive procedures, damage to the body, and let’s face it, real physical pain, psychological suffering and emotional fallout are the most distressing.
Does this surprise you?
I’ve been tracking this fear within myself for the past 10 years and seeing it in my cancer survivor clients.
Here are a few heartfelt expressions of the fear of recurrence:
How do I quiet the circular thinking of “the better I feel, the less I trust my body not to betray me again?” How do I keep perspective?
How can I feel safe in my body and in my life?
How do I get past my panic, especially in middle of night, which prevents sleep, which affects my health?
So what can help people “live well with uncertainty?”
In my experience, living well with uncertainty means pulling yourself back into this present moment and appreciating the NOW. And it also lies in surrendering the notion that you can control the future. The future will be here soon enough – what you have now is this moment. What are you going to do with it?
Living well also means rebuilding your physical and emotional energy. Being motivated to stay in the game.
And I believe there is an emotional cure in company. Company who listen, understand, and join you when you are in a dark place, so you don’t feel so alone with the universal fear of mortality that cancer brings into sharp focus. In fact, in company, you may temporarily experience that feeling you long for of being Unafraid.